Character Coaching

"Sports do not teach character.

They reveal it."

~ John Wooden

One of the most important roles coaches play in preparing players for competition and life is to give them a chance to develop good character.

 

We expect a game plan for coaching the X’s and O’s of our sport. What isn’t always clear is how to coach character. Over time we have seen an ever-growing gap develop between coaching the fundamental aspects of a specific sport and the development of quality character. Character Coaches exist to fill this crucial gap in developing the complete athlete.

CHARACTER COACH VS. CHAPLAIN

When discussing the role of a Character Coach it is important to know the difference between a Character Coach and a Chaplain. Both roles are critically important but distinctively different. Which role you play with a team is determined by the audience. When it comes to using sports to reach out youth, Character Coaching is the ultimate

"stand-in-the-gap" position you could ever imagine.


CHARACTER COACH CHAPLAIN
Values-based Faith-based
The goal is to teach character/leadership qualities The goal is to provide spiritual guidance and direction
Coaches can make it manditory Coaches must make it optional
Model + Inform Model + Inform + Convert
  • Who can be a Character Coach?

    A wide variety of people can serve the people of sport as Character Coaches. One need not be a sport ministry professional to faithfully serve and to impact the lives of coaches and athletes significantly. 



    Among those who could serve in this role are:



    - Parents of players in youth sports (school based teams or club sports).

    - Coaches of youth sports teams, school based teams or coaches at higher levels of sport.

    - Community leaders with an interest in developing character.

    - Athletic trainers or other support personnel with sports teams.

    - Pastors or other ministry professionals.

    - Church members who desire to make an impact by serving others.

  • What does it take to be a Character Coach?

    FCA wants to provide teams with the best-trained, most effective Character Coaches that they can, so we have created a process:



    - Completion of the online application called the Ministry Leader Application.

    - Initiation of a relationship with an FCA staff member in your area for further training, encouragement, facilitation and accountability.

    - Communication with the FCA staff prior to the season for planning, prayer, resources, etc

    - Communication with the FCA staff during the season for encouragement, problem solving and further direction.

    - Communication at the end of the season for evaluation, reporting of results, etc…

Character Coach Essentials

  • General Guidelines

    1. Take a relational approach; have a missionary mindset! Do not approach this role with an agenda other than to serve. 
    2. Focus on people rather than methods and strategies. Give your heart to the coaches and athletes. Be expressive in letting them know you care about them. 
    3. Don’t talk down to anyone and always be available…you never know what other opportunities may arise by simply being in the right place at the right time. 
  • Gaining Trust

    1. Know the coaches and athletes by name; show a personal interest in them and their families. You will be trusted when you show you care about them. 
    2. Be present. If possible, drop by practice twice a week. A short time on the field will open hearts and it speaks volumes about how much you really care about them. Walk around at practice and speak to anyone and everyone…listening to ways you can best serve them. 
    3. Be affirming and encouraging. Always look for opportunities to build them up. You might be the only person who tells one of the coaches or athletes that you believe in them. 
  • Life Attitude

    1. Understand that you are in that position for a reason that is bigger than athletics. Take honor in your role…it is a great responsibility. 
    2. Be loyal. Never hang around people who constantly criticize the coaches…do not listen to them and do not entertain those conversations. 
    3. Do not be presumptuous. If the coaches want you on the sidelines or to ride the bus for road games, they will ask you.

Keys to Being an Effective Character Coach

  • Focus on the people of sport. Win their trust through serving them.

    1. Focus on the coaches and players, not the fans, the media or others. Coaches are key. Invest in their lives and build trust with them. Respond to the athletes who show interest. Follow up with those who ask questions or indicate a desire for spiritual things.
    2. Know their names, positions, uniform numbers and all you can about their backgrounds. Show a personal interest in them and they'll be more open to you.
    3. Ask good questions about the sport, their roles, their expectations and their goals. 

    Be available to them, even when it's terribly inconvenient. The point of crisis or the inconvenient phone call is often the situation that either wins or loses you their trust and confidence. 

  • Watch your attitude and don't act like a fan.

    1. Respect and value the culture of sport. Study it; learn its history and language. Ask good questions of the coaches and players. 
    2. Look for opportunities to serve the team and don't seek privileges. If they want to outfit you with team gear, they'll ask for your size. Don't seek such privileges. An arrogant, presumptuous attitude will quickly invalidate your ministry. 
    3. Encourage always and don't become critical. If they want your opinion, they'll ask for it. Maintain a supportive attitude and you'll be a highly valued person. If you are constantly critical or finding fault, you'll soon be marginalized or ignored. 
    4. Don't talk about religion. Talk about faith in the context of the sport. Help them see what genuine faith is through their sport experience. 
  • Be in the right place at the right time.

    1. Be at practice sessions. Lots of people attend the games, very few attend practices. The coaches and athletes know that only those most highly committed to the team are at practice. If you're there, their respect for you will grow quickly. 
    2. Be there when they lose. Everyone seems to hang around to congratulate the team when they've won a big game. You must be the one to stay late, to console, to encourage and to commiserate with them when they've lost the big game. This builds trust and lets you see their grieving hearts. 
    3. Be available in times of crisis. The trips to the training room or the emergency room with an injured player build trust and deepen relationships like nothing else. The private meeting with a coach in his office concerning a troubled player is a powerful ministry opportunity. The lunch meeting with an athlete or coach who's looking for counsel as he or she is making a big decision is a life-changing moment. If you're available, you have a ministry. If you're not, you don't. 
  • Strategies and methods are secondary to the relational emphasis.

    1. If you will focus on the relationship building tips listed above, the appropriate strategies and methods will be much more easily seen and implemented. 
    2. Always ask permission before beginning a ministry initiative. Make a proposal to the head coach for the Bible study, discussion, chapel, event, etc. Doing so honors his position and may keep you from violating a team or athletic association rule. It also further builds his or her trust of you and your ministry. 
    3. Be sure to adapt ministry methods and tools to the sport's culture. Don't simply drag the people of sport into church culture and expect it to be a good fit. Strive to help those whom you serve to fully integrate their lives in sport with their lives in Christ Jesus.

    To effectively serve the people of sport as their Character Coach; focus on the people and win their trust through serving them; watch your attitude; be in the right place at the right time; and keep strategies and methods secondary to the relational emphasis. 



  • Guidelines For The Character Coach Message

    • Be Brief. 



        - Stay under 7 minutes! 


        - Time yourself as you prepare. Do not abuse the Coach’s wishes…this is the quickest way to lose respect and trust. 



    • Be Personal. 



        - Sharing a personal story or experience makes a great impact and it will help you connect with the audience. 



    • Be Simple. 



        - Do not try to cover too much information. Be simple and focused. Give them something they can remember and repeat. 



    • Be Motivational. 



        - Remember that these athletes are about to go into (or have just finished) intense competition. Always try to end your message with a charge for them to take action! What is it that you want them to do as a result of what they have just heard? 

  • Tips For Recruiting Character Coaches

    1. Begin with prayer. 
    2. Begin conversations with potential Character Coaches to better understand their passions. 
    3. Recruit someone that you know who has strong character and their life reflects Christ.
    4. Recruit a wide range of people from your community: businessmen who were athletes, former Coaches, Pastors, Youth Leaders, College Athletes, etc. 
    5. Recruit someone who is enthusiastic. 
    6. Recruit self-starters who will follow through with their commitments. 
    7. When appropriate, have another volunteer ‘tag along’ or ‘shadow’ to learn how to be a Character Coach.

  • FCA Character Coach Resources

    One of the roles of the Character Coach would be to give brief (7-10 minute) ‘character talks’ or lessons each week to the team. The following links contains 20 ‘character talks’ or lessons that revolve around a specific character trait. These lessons are a powerful resource and are to be used as a guide for an FCA Character Coach. 



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